Merry or Happy?

You all know by now that sometimes I just can’t keep my opinions to myself, right?  A good friend of mine posted something on FB the other day that got my attention and so I chirped.  You’re not surprised, are ya.  Her question posed the dilemma of what to say to people during the Holiday season so as not to offend anyone.

*sigh*

Maybe I’m being insensitive, but maybe we’re all getting just a little too sensitive. The irony in all these separate religions and beliefs is that no matter what you or I or our neighbor down the street or the tribe on the other side of the world believes…. the simplest and most relevant truth is.. clearly,  we all got here the same way.  Evolution?  An all powerful God?  All the other creators that are worshiped?  None of us knows the real answer for sure, but we have our beliefs.   Whatever your beliefs are, I support you 100 percent as long as you’re not hurting someone else or shunning them because their beliefs might be different than yours. We need to stop trying to be so -separate- and embrace each other with more acceptance and kindness. Period.  That’s where organized religion irks me..   In some ways it divides people, it angers people, it alienates.

Back to the point here –  If you wish me a Merry Christmas or a Happy Hanukkah or Kwanzaa, etc… I’ll assume the intention is good will.  I will not be offended that you didn’t take what might be my religious beliefs into consideration when offering up any of these tidings  because  all of them are about spreading cheer during this holiday season. There’s never too much of that.

Merry Holidays to you and
yours – I hope you enjoy a safe and happy holiday season with the ones
you love and may the coming year bring good health, good fortune and
Peace On Earth to all –

And so it goes

 I’ve been neglecting my blog lately.  Thank you for those who still drop by.  All is well, I’ve just not been motivated in this one particular space with so much else going on, all good, thankfully.  I miss the daily chatter with my blog friends but some of you have found me on FB and I’m glad we can keep in touch there as well.  So many of you are so inspiring in your own way.. creatively or with a strength and resolve and grace during difficult times….  it’s a pleasure to have come to know you.

Here’s some *random* on a Monday Morning… 

 I watched “And So It Goes” with Diane Keaton and Michael Douglas the other night.   I was so looking forward to it because it should have had that same classic down to earth, real life,  good feeling, great sense of humor of some of my favorite movies  – As good as it gets, Somethings gotta give, Hope Springs,  It’s Complicated, etccome to mind.   Maybe it’s just me, but I found it to be a big disappointment.  Michael Douglas was just unlikeable and not really believable in his character  and Diane was…. Diane, only throw in some silly and whiney.  Also, pepper it all with really juvenile humor that seemed like it was put there as an afterthought to spice up the movie.. or something. All in all, it was OK, when it had potential to be really great.  

 My daughter is moving into her own place after Christmas.  That’s the way it should be, and I am so very happy because she’s moving into a terrific apartment and is very excited about it.  So here is mom, mourning the fact that we will probably never all be living under the same roof again, the four of us.  I know it’s the natural order of things and it’s what we want for our children, but I am definitely not one of those moms who can’t wait for the kids to finally leave the nest.  I will miss the foursome we were, here, together.  It’s as if a new stage is set, a new chapter has begun.. onward!  But I liked the old chapter so very much I don’t want to leave it.  Me and those darn apron strings, you know.

I’ve discovered one of the down sides of animal rescue and adoption events. Despite all the precautions we take to screen adopters, sometimes… the dog does not end up in the environment we would choose.  Example.. we do home visits after our adoption events to make sure all is going well.  Recently, one of the dogs we adopted out had a home visit.  The people who adopted her are hoarders.. so there is clutter all over the house.  It’s not filthy, just very very cluttered. Because of all the clutter… the dog is kept mostly on a leash in the house or in her crate.  They don’t want her getting into the “clutter”.  She appears to have bonded with her new owner and looks healthy.  The owner has an autistic son who appeared agitated at the home visit and has not bonded with the dog.  We asked if perhaps the dog was too much at this time and could we refund her money and bring *August home.  She flat out refused and said she LOVES the dog.  We told her living on a leash tied to a table inside a house is no way for a dog to live… and she agreed to work on that.   Really, we have no legal leg to stand on in this case and can’t take the dog back.  We will check in with her again and hope she has decided to acclimate the dog properly to the cluttered house and let her live off leash.  Also, we hope the boy is able to bond in some way with the dog so that there is not additional tension in the house. That’s never good for the dog.. or the family.   

 A blog friend of mine is very worried for her family right now. Knowing what they are going through reminds me that  having the pressure of major troubles during what is supposed to be a joyous season can make it a very difficult and sad time indeed.  If someone you know is struggling, reach out in whatever way is comfortable for you. Let them know they are not forgotten during this season of *Hope. 

May your Holiday Season bring you  Joy and Peace of Mind, Courage, Strength, Love and Hope. Those are the gifts I wish I could bestow on all –  *

Christmas throw up and some holiday recipes

As my son has said and he was absolutely right…

Looks like Christmas has thrown up at This Old House 2.  Every year I say I’m going to simplify a bit, not drag everything out and cram it around the mantles and shelves and hanging from mirrors and chandeliers… and every year I still do it anyway.

 Except the SNOW VILLAGE.  Oh, when I was a young brand new wife I couldn’t wait to start collecting  my DEPT 56 SNOW VILLAGE!!…OMG it’s gonna be so awesome setting up that beautiful snow village with it’s old cars and light up houses and fences and trees and shops and trees  and barn and more trees and street lights that work!  River with trout in it! little wreaths on each door!   That fake glorious snow!!!.. (actually that pain- in -the- ass- gets- all- over- everything -even in- your -mouth- snow).  It’s still sitting in the rubbermaid containers downstairs for the third year in a row.   I’m kinda over it.

  
All three of my christmas cactus are in bloom in the kitchen window… 

 The keeping room mantle.. ask me how much I love those battery operated candles.. 
 

Some new recipes I will try
this year –

Canoli Cheesecake!

Ingredients
7 oz pkg cannoli shells
3 tablespoons unsalted butter melted
2 tablespoons sugar
4 cups whole milk ricotta cheese
1 1/4 cups sugar
1/4 cup flour
1/2 cup whipping cream
2 teaspoons pure vanilla extract
1 teaspoon orange zest
5 large eggs
1/3 cup mini chocolate chips
Confectionery sugar for sprinkling

Directions
Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Line a 9 inch springform pan with
parchment. Crush canolli shells in a food processor, add butter and 2
tablespoons sugar and continue to pulse until med-fine crumbs. Press
crumbs firmly onto bottom of pan. Bake 10 minutes. Let cool.

Beat ricotta cheese, remaining sugar and flour in bowl of electric
mixer on medium until well blended. Add whipping cream, vanilla and
zest; mix well. Add eggs, 1 at a time, mixing just until blended after
each addition. Pour over crust.
Bake for 1 hour and 10 minutes,
then sprinkle top with the chocolate chips delicately, pressing chips in
lightly. Continue to bake 10 more minutes or until center is almost
set. Run knife around rim of pan to loosen cake. Cool before removing
rim of pan. Refrigerate 4 hours or more. Before serving sprinkle with
confectionery sugar. Top with whipped cream if desired. Store leftovers
in refrigerator, serves 10.

 
I’ve been told by a reliable source that this is very easy to make and delicious. 

 

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recipe and photo courtesy laurenslatest.com

Christmas Funfetti Cake Batter Truffles

Yield: 24 small

Ingredients:

1 cup white cake mix
1/2 cup all purpose flour
1/2 cup granulated sugar
1/4 cup butter, melted
1/2 teaspoon vanilla
2 tablespoons milk
1 tablespoon Christmas sprinkles + more for decoration
1 1/2 cups white chocolate chips or vanilla almond bark

Directions:

In a large bowl, whisk cake mix, flour and sugar. Stir in melted butter, vanilla, milk and sprinkles. Mixture should be moist and be able to hold its shape easily when formed. Using a cookie scoop, form mixture into even balls and refrigerate 20-30 minutes.
In the mean time, melt chocolate in a double boiler or slowly in the microwave. Using a fork, drop one of the cake batter truffles into the chocolate and roll around to coat. Tap off the excess gently and transfer to cookie sheet lined with wax paper. Top with more sprinkles, if desired.
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OREO PEPPERMINT CRUNCH COOKIES
see photo and recipe credit above 
 
Ingredients

1 box white cake mix (15.25 oz.)(I use Pillsbury)
1 stick butter, melted (8 Tbsp.)
1 egg
1/2 teaspoon peppermint extract
1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract
4 ounces cream cheese, softened
1 cup Oreo cookie chunks
1 cup Andes Peppermint Crunch pieces
1/2 cup dark chocolate chips

Instructions
  1. Combine the cake mix, melted butter, egg, and extracts. Beat until a soft dough forms. Add the cream cheese and beat in gently until combined. Stir in the peppermint crunch pieces and chocolate chips first. Then gently stir in the cookie pieces by hand being careful not to break up the cookie more. Refrigerate dough for at least 30 minutes.
  2. Roll the dough into 36 balls. Bake on a cookie sheet at 350 degrees for 9 minutes. Do not over bake. The cookies will be very soft and look undone. Let them sit on the hot cookie sheet for 2 minutes, then gently remove them with a spatula to a piece of wax paper on the counter.
  3. Very gently tap the tops of the cookies with the bottom of the spatula to even out the tops. Let them sit until completely cool. Store in a sealed container. Makes 36 cookies.
Notes
I like to use a Silpat to bake these cookies. It helps to keep them from spreading too much, but it isn’t necessary.




 Has Christmas thrown up at your house yet?   If you care to share some of your favorite holiday recipes, or some new ones!.. please paste a link in the comments section below… 




A Big Thank You to Pet Valu!

  We had another Day for the Dogs yesterday at a Pet Valu in Cromwell, CT.  Do you have a Pet Valu franchise near you?  They are popping up all over CT and I have to say, I love them.  They are very open to letting rescues hold small  Adoption Events at their store locations, couldn’t have received a warmer embrace.  They also have these really cool dog bath stations.. you bring your dog and shampoo and for $10. you can give your dog a bath in luxurious style.  Perfect for those medium and big dogs that don’t fit in your sink or protecting your tub from scratches.  THANK YOU, PET VALU… for all you help us accomplish for shelter dogs.

Two of our three remaining fosters found homes yesterday and we invited another Connecticut rescue to attend with her three as well.  Two of her three also found homes.  It’s a beautiful thing.

Hey Hilary Cooper Kenny of Crazy as A Loom-  we sold both of your donated rugs to very happy customers yesterday, so thank you so very much for your contribution to Homeward Bound CT! 

We put these bandanas on our dogs so that they are easily recognizable as 
available for adoption as we walk them around the store and grounds. 

Beautiful Sadie.. still looking for her forever home…
If I didn’t have four and a husband to set a limit, I’d take her immediately.
Awesome dog.

Clara, the dog who lost all her hair because of stress when in the kill shelter,
came for a visit with her new mom.. they became a family at our previous event.
As you can see… all is well.  Her hair is growing back in and her mom loves her so. 
 

Eddie getting a rid in a cart – he found a home at the end of the day –
Happy life, Eddie! 

 A customer at one of the wash stations, beautiful dog!

 Hopper is still looking for his forever home.. but for now
 he lives with these two girls and their mom, who is fostering him.

 Wendy went home!
 
This young man and his dad brought their two shep puppies in for a bath. 

Dingo getting hugs from Sue… 

This is a better picture of beautiful Sadie… 

The awesome crew at Pet Valu with Sue and Dingo – 
The young man second from left adopted Timmy from our previous event.

It looks like fun, but there’s a lot of paperwork involved. 
Interviews and reference checks are conducted, as well as home visits after. 
 

 Mr. Fantastic.. now Foster.. has a spiffy wardrobe already.

Lucy went home!
 

 It’s ALLLL Good. 🙂 

Winterizing

 We had a lovely Thanksgiving day here at This Old House with the kids and my parents.  As most of you know… you cook and clean for two days and the entire meal is consumed in about 15 minutes. Permit me to brag for a minute?  My pies were divine and not hard to put together, so I’m going to share the recipes with you….

I’ve seen some awfully pretty pies… mine are not so fussy though. 
Their taste makes up for the lack of eye candy 🙂 
Kate the Country Girls Favorite Apple Pie recipe HERE
The only things I did different were.. I used four different kinds of apples..
Honeycrisp, Empire, Macoun and Pink Lady
And I used Pillsbury pie crust you simply roll out. 
It might be cheating, but boy it sure came out good regardless.
The most decadent chocolate pie EVER  recipe HERE

  One serious game of Uno

  My son announced during dinner last night that in just 16 hours or so our house was going to look
like Christmas threw up in it.   TSK!

 And.. I promised a Bunny Tale…

There once were two young bunnies….Their names were Cloud and Harley.  It was hoped that they were both the same sex so we wouldn’t have MORE bunnies shortly after.  I noticed a particular behavior not too long ago that meant they were either gay (not that there’s anything wrong with that).. or heterosexual.. but it was important to know WHICH.   So off to the vet we went.  Turns out Cloud is a girl and Harley is a boy.

 It’s much easier to neuter a boy than spay a girl bunny.
So Harley went under the knife, much to his chagrin. 
Meanwhile.. back at the Hutch… 
We’ve had some very cold nights already and I couldn’t
stand the thought of those bunnies out there with the wind coming down off 
the hill and into their hutch.  They use the side rooms as a bathroom only,
go figure.  So I clean that out daily and stuffed one of the outside compartments
with lots of hay, which they tunnel in to keep warm.  I also cover
the hutch at night with two old waterproof horse blankets.  
This seems to be keeping them comfortable. 

 Nextdoor in the coop, the girls have a water heater  and a red flood lamp that keeps the temps above freezing in their coop at night.  This seems to work better than an actual heat lamp, with not as intense a heat source, but enough to keep them comfortable.  Not everyone feels this is necessary, but it sure makes me feel better and the critters seem happy and look healthy.

 If you’ve got outdoor animals, what precautions do you take to keep them
safe and warm in winter months?  I have yet to figure out how to keep
the rabbits water from freezing during the day. 

 

On Burning and the Bills…

 If you don’t live under a rock you know the outcome of last night’s grand jury decision in the MB shooting.  Tragedy all around.  I wrote a huge post on the subject early this morning. Then I deleted the whole thing.   I realized I had no answers, I had no solutions and my opinion is just that.  The end result is a young man is dead, a young officer who has never fired his weapon on the job until that fateful evening will have to live with the consequences for the rest of his life… and some angry protesters took it upon themselves to burn their town instead of making the kind of statements that might change the conversation, heal wounds, move forward in a positive way. 

Bill Cosby –  *sigh*   Boy, that was hard to hear.  I have loved that man and his sense of humor for decades.  At first I honestly had the thought… oh, here comes another  has- been  spurned starlet whose career never took off, now she’s older and writing a book and wants it to sell. So she drops a bomb on a powerful guy and wow, how unfair is that.   I had no doubt Bill was capable of affairs, seems to come with the territory of huge star power… but drugging and raping?  Come on, not BILL!?….

I had the same reaction when the Monica Lewinsky crap came out… Oh PLEASE… There is no way Bill would be so stupid as to have an affair with a very young naive intern who would most definitely spill the beans because  OMG I’M SCREWING  AROUND WITH  THE PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES!!!!   and yet…. it was true.

Not going to make fans here but I still think Bill Clinton was one of our better Presidents and my Conservative Republican husband actually agrees. I think we made a huge circus out of something we had no business f*cking with.  Presidents have conducted affairs – right or wrong – for all of our Presidential history and it has never hindered their performance as our leader until we decided to meddle where we don’t belong.. in their bedrooms.. or closets where blue dresses with stains are preserved for future prosecution.

Now why did I go there again??…. ah yes. The question .. what is it about men of great power thinking they can do atrocious things and get away with them?  What gives them the impression they WILL get away with it?  

As for Bill Cosby… with so many women coming out of the woodwork with similar stories…my original theory doesn’t hold water and I’m just sad for the man and his family and especially the women who were abused.

I think I’ve ranted enough on this blog for a while. Next.. a tale of neutered bunnies….. really!

..and then some.

Thank you for taking the time to read through my post yesterday regarding immigration reform. Any time you post your personal beliefs in public, it’s a risk.  Almost impossible not to offend someone.

 Jane left a very poignant comment at the end of yesterdays comments section, another side to the immigration issue that is very real and worth going back to read.

 It’s a new day, all – lets make it a good one.

 

 

First lets kill all the hypocrisy

Oh, do we even touch on such a highly charged issue? Ah, what the heck – let’s open the gates…join the conversation if you’d like…. I welcome opposing views as long as we respect each other, that’s all I ask.

First let me tell you, I believe we as a nation no longer have the ability to think and act and  vote clearly without  prejudice clouding our judgement. The animosity on both sides of the fence is too great.  Ah, therein lies a big rub. Why is there a  proverbial fence between us as a united people?   That’s my main gripe.    If you only have eyes for one political affiliation, ever, on all topics, then you are part of the problem.  The  party system is part of the problem.  Haven’t we all evolved enough at this point in our history to know there is no black/white in our universe and closed minds are dangerous. That’s what we’re becoming.. a body of divided closed -minded people, especially those employed and empowered in the political arena but  hey, we each bear responsibility  as voters.

 Someone I know ranted that  Democrats are the reason for the immigration problem we face today in our country. You see.. right there… closed mind, not factual. 

Below are just bits and pieces of the  past quarter century history of
attempts at immigration reform  –  fraught with political vote-getting
agendas, inconsistencies and lack of follow-throughs,  and an inability
to come to agreeable terms between business and labor interests.

 ” President Reagan, in 1986, signed the Immigration Reform and Control
Act, which legalized close to
3 million undocumented immigrants. The laws was supposed to be a
comprehensive solution with provisions intended to clamp down on border
security.
These provisions were never enforced, and the subsequent explosion in
illegal crossings has resulted in some 11 million illegal aliens living
in the United States today. An estimated 1.8 million illegal immigrants
are currently residing in
Texas, compared with 1.1 million in 2000. In ten years, that represents
an increase of 54 percent, or 70,000 persons each year coming to our
state illegally
.”

More  – 

1996: Under President Clinton, most reform was aimed at reducing immigration amid rising anti-immigrant sentiment in the country. But the backlash against strict reform led many of the harshest measures to be rolled back, meaning that ultimately little changed.
Partisan and intraparty disputes over how far to go caused multiple delays. Attempts at a national identification card went nowhere, as did legislation — introduced by Sen. Harry Reid (D-Nev.) — that would deprive the children of undocumented immigrants of citizenship. (Reid apologized for that legislation in 2006, calling it the “low point” of his career.)

* 2004-2007: You could say that talk radio killed President Bush’s attempts at immigration reform. He hoped to appeal to both business owners and Hispanic voters with a comprehensive overhaul, but he was stymied by his own party.  Bush began pushing for a guest worker program in 2004. An early attempt by Sens. Chuck Hagel (R-Neb.) and Tom Daschle (D-S.D.) died a quick death, in part because of election year politics. But even the prospect of reform stirred up a backlash from conservatives, in particular Rep. Tom Tancredo (R-Colo.). Tancredo appeared on talk radio constantly warning of the dangers posed by illegal immigration.

President Obama is catching a lot of heat for his approach. While I don’t agree with everything this President has brought to the table, I’m not horrified by his actions when Congress has repeatedly failed to do what they’ve been appointed to do.  Some of you will disagree, but I see a man who knows the failures of the past and wants to make the changes he was elected to do. Environment, health reform and Immigration were the big issues.  He’s attempting to make strides where others are floundering.  Have floundered badly.

His words – “To those members of Congress who question my authority to make our
immigration system work better, or question the wisdom of me acting
where Congress has failed, I have one answer: Pass a bill.”     –
Amen. 

 Here’s what I understand regarding what he proposes… .. in simplest terms.   Tighter control at borders.. will it be imposed?  We’ve heard that promise from Presidents before, yet to be seen, but necessary.  For those who qualify, a temporary stay of three years will be granted as long as a background check passes and back taxes are paid.   They are not being offered a path to citizenship and will not be eligible for federal benefits and health care programs.



“If you meet the
criteria, you can come out of the shadows and get right with the law. If
you’re a criminal, you’ll be deported. If you plan to enter the U.S.
illegally, your chances of getting caught and sent back just went up,”
Obama said.



The President argued
that ordering a mass amnesty would be unfair but mass deportation would
“be both impossible and contrary to our character.”   
Our Character.  
 In farm fields across America.. who do you see working in those fields?…. more often than not, immigrants. Who do we see taking care of our affluent citizens children?  Who are you hiring to drive you from point A to point B in the city?.Who’s washing dishes in your favorite restaurant? Immigrants have always been a vital part of America’s economy.   
  I’ve heard the complaint that immigrants are taking their pay and shipping some of it back to their families in their homeland.  How is that worse than Corporate America shipping it’s jobs to foreign countries for cheaper labor and tax evasion?….   

 How do we keep overlooking the most basic truth, that we are all immigrants unless you are of American Indian decent?   Irish, English,  German, Italian, Chinese, Africans…… are responsible for the construction of 
the roads, railroads, bridges, businesses,etc.  
First… lets kill all the hypocrisy.   Easier said than done, but it’s my belief we are capable if we get our head out of our uncompromising asses and unite once again as one people, instead of this divide and conquer mentality we seem to now embrace, especially in government.  It has clouded our capacity to get things accomplished in a positive way.  I am not singling out one group, let that be known. Are you a Republican? Democrat? Liberal? Conservative? Tea partier! Far Right, Far Left, walk the line?…. We all have sound ideas, valid concerns, needs, hopes and expectations.  That’s what we all have in common….and jeez, just seems to me, those should be the important things. The things that bring us together.   The inability to work through these issues as a civilized enlightened nation is what divides us and makes us look weak. No one man in any particular office is responsible for that. 
*sigh*

 

   

About that Facebook Post…..

  Facebook is a funny bird….. it can be a wonderful tool for keeping in touch with distant family and friends, posting events, sharing happy news, philosophies and photos.  It’s also used and abused as a bitch session, rant platform, political war zone and advocacy area.  Yep, you can really piss people off if you try. 

 I try to keep my facebook page light and entertaining and all in the spirit of  sharing, good will and encouragement.  Am I always successful?  Ha!   In all honesty I get tangled in others conversations now and then where my opinion is bold and most often in defense of something.

This morning it was about posting pics of animals in need. In all fairness the original poster was begging others to not post pictures of abused animals anymore. I should note that she is an animal advocate and has rescue dogs of her own.  Her friends agreed that they want to see -happy- on FB, no sad and horrible stories of abuse that they can’t do anything about.  And that’s where I chimed in.  In essence my point was that I am in dog rescue and do post dogs in bad condition sometimes that need help. My view is that if  you never see the negative images, you won’t know the need is there and you will definitely not be prompted to do something about it. ( I’m not talking about the horribly gruesome images.)   If you are in a position to do something and my post prompted you to do so, mission accomplished.  And, time and time again, those posts save dogs.   So, I won’t apologize, although I limit it so I don’t bombard friends with sad circumstances.

 There aren’t enough people in this world who give a damn about anything other than what is directly in front of them affecting their world directly and immediately.  So I am definitely not quick to criticize anyone who is trying to make a difference for the greater good  somewhere, regardless of the cause.  Even if their way of doing it is posting on their FB feed a picture that might make me feel momentarily uncomfortable.  – Did I just piss you off?

What does bother me?  Those dead dear and game pics of proud hunters (sometimes kids!) with big smiles standing next to their bleeding, big eyed, tongue hanging out of mouth deer, bear, or whatever…  I am not a vegetarian, so I have to admit this is probably hypocritical… but somehow seeing you standing so tall and proud next to an animal you killed for the joy of it is really disturbing.  Oh, I know the argument stand that the deer/game will be eaten…but you’re not out there shooting deer because you can’t afford food from the grocery store.  You’re doing it because you enjoy the hunt.. and kill. WE could also argue that the way this country treats animals raised for food in mass factory inhumane conditions is a lot less humane than the momentary shoot and kill of that deer.  You’re right!  Ah, it gets so complicated, doesn’t it.   I do try to buy food labeled as humanely raised and I encourage all to do so.  Have you seen FOOD, Inc?    Ugh. a must see. But be prepared, it will offend you.

 – Just sayin.

You can’t make this stuff up

   So about this shelter dog Adoption event stuff… it takes a lot of organization, some trials and tribulations, a mix of ever-giving volunteers, each with talents they bring to the table.  And of course.. those selfless rescues who pulled the dogs from kill shelters initially, some in horrible shape.. brought them to their veterinarians, drained their own finances and turn their homes into kennels to save these dogs.  Without them, we couldn’t do what we do to rehome those unfortunate dogs.

 Regarding adopters… well, that’s where it can get tricky.  First, there is the adoption fee. We don’t take a penny from rescues or adopters. We raise funds to hold the events before hand and our services are free.  The  adoption fee at our events is $385.  Some potential adopters bawk at that price. They say “I can get a dog at the pound for $50!.  Why am I paying YOU $385??     The answer is very simple. Our rescues have to pull and quarantine the dogs for 30 days and evaluate their behavior. They must neuter or spay them, innoculate them, de-worm them and test for things like heartworm before they can come to our event.  Their cost at this point is approximately $300, if not more.  Then there is the transport.. our southern folks drive 30 hours (that’s alot of gas) to get here.  They’re lucky if they break even at the end.     Your pound dog?  Is only required to have a rabies shot and you might get lucky and have a healthy spayed/neutered dog that behaves well once he leaves the pound, but it’s a crap shoot.

Now, to be fair, I’m still all for adopting from your local pound. Just had to explain the reason for the fee.   AND… adopting a shelter dog from our events is also a crap shoot in certain ways.  These dogs haven’t lived in the kill shelter for atleast a month, but they are still living in kennel conditions, even in a home atmosphere, unless we’ve brought them from foster homes.  So, their exact behavior in your home might be somewhat different, at least at first,  then where they came from.  Our rescue folks try to know them as best they can, and they are fully vetted.  All of this is explained to potential adopters, and then it is up to them to help the dog adjust.  We are always available after adoption to help.

One of the biggest mistakes new adopters make is letting Scruffy off leash immediately after bringing him home.  While he may be friendly and lovey and so happy to be with you… he doesn’t really know you yet, or your yard as “home”.  He probably doesn’t even know his name.   I wouldn’t trust your new dog for months off leash and expect that they will stay right with you or return home if they get away from you.  Yet, so many people lose their new adoptee and out goes the search squad, not always with great results.

Another issue we sometimes deal with is new adopters not having the patience to allow their new charge to get accustomed to the new home and family, or not understanding the dogs language.   Case in point… three days ago we got a call from “Jenny’s” new family saying she was not adjusting well to their home, was unhappy with her tail between her legs all the time and ate ravenously and with aggression.   Jenny is a young puppy.   We were perplexed… that was not her demeanor at our event or with rescue before.  They wanted her picked up  – before the kids got home. –     We took her back immediately.  Jenny went to foster for just two days where her behavior was monitored.  No food aggression, and she was fed with the other dogs to test that theory.  She was just hungry.  She was also bouncy and happy, tail wagging with none of the signs the family had mentioned.    Here’s what really happened… they have electric fence in their yard.  They tried to show her how to use it, and zapped her in the process.. she’s about 14 weeks old and was brand new to her environment. They scared the hell out of her and we don’t know what else.. perhaps the mom and dad just didn’t want to deal with puppy training.

Jenny was rehomed yesterday with a lovely couple who adore her. No signs of poor behavior, just a happy puppy in the  right environment.  The heartbreak?   The E-mail we received the day after Jenny was taken from the family… from their young daughter.   “You took Jenny from us! How very unfair!.. she was just getting used to us and her new home, we would have been the very best family for her ever!  I hope you will give her the very best home, because we were it!!

Now, let me tell you what I think of that.  Her parents threw us under the bus when they decided the puppy was too much work for them, that’s what I think.  They should have let their kids say goodbye and explained why they felt Jenny was not well suited as an addition to their family. Instead they came home to no more Jenny and an explanation that wasn’t truth. It broke the girls heart even more to think we felt they weren’t suitable so we took the dog back.  We wrote her back saying we knew she had every intention of giving Jenny a wonderful home and perhaps talking with her parents about why they decided to return her would help her to understand their decision.

As for the stuff you can’t make up…

  Now and then a potential adopter shows up that we just have to say no to.  You know, you get a feeling, you see interaction that isn’t cool.. their references don’t pan out for whatever reason. (we insist on solid references, including vet)  One couple wanted a small dog for their daughter. They found one they liked, but didn’t want to commit.  Someone else came along, a lovely woman with MS or parkinsons, who clearly adored the dog, had great references,  and she adopted. The family who put the dog aside came back and was annoyed that we let someone else take her, even though they didn’t want to commit.    They shopped around again…  and finally settled on a little chihuahua girl named Flower. We had them talk with our trainer and walk around with the dog to see if it was a good fit.  They all looked happy except for the Dad.

They did a family huddle…

 then came back to us and said…”Well, we really like Flower.. but.. what’s that thing in the back”. 

 That thing in the back?….. 

we looked. 

“You mean her genitals?”…..

 “Oh is that what that is? Well, we’re thinking then that her Vagina is too big”.  

Blank stares all around… (hysterical laughter later)….. but we said……

“I’m sorry… we probably don’t have a dog here that we would feel comfortable adopting out to you.”  

And we took Flower back in the barn.    Really folks, Flower has a very normal looking female genitalia region.  And if they didn’t know what it WAS, and held it against her regardless, they aren’t the kind of people we want to adopt to anyway.  That didn’t stop them from displaying their anger at our decision by standing at the bottom of the hill and glaring up at us in the barn for a good half hour, as if we would change our minds about adopting to them.  Then, they finally left.

We are somewhat choosey because these dogs have already been through so much. We want to place them where they have the best chance of having the kind of life they deserve.  It’s as simple as that.  And if you’ve read all the way through this post today, here’s your reward.. Jenny in her new home.. where she has definitely hit the good home jackpot! 

It’s a beautiful thing….