One of my favorite places on Earth

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ave you ever visited a place for the very first time and had the immediate feeling of “home”?  This is the case for me and Martha’s Vineyard, Mass.  My first trip was as a young adult visiting my aunt and uncle, who rented a house there. It was love at first sight as we cruised into Vineyard Haven Harbor on  the ferry…the sailboats.. the sea captains homes… this beautiful rustic seaside island not far off the coast.  Looking down off the bow, the cold water churns a  clean, clear deep turquoise and navy blue.  I knew right away I could live there very happily.

 How to describe the Vineyard vibe… well, unfortunately it has become very popular during summer months over the years with celebrities and politicians…. particularly Presidents.  This has made it a very populated touristy destination and real estate prices have soared.  There are lines at ice cream stands, waits at the restaurants, traffic through the towns,  but you can also get away from it all to the more rural parts of the island… Menemsha, Chilmark, Aquinnah… Tisbury.  There are country fairs, Illumination night at the Campgrounds, artisan flea markets, Organic produce stands… horse farms and trailriding, sailing, biking at it’s best.  The beaches!! ooh, that wild South Beach… beware the undertow!… but behold the beauty.

  This morning I booked a long weekend at the end of the summer for the family ( kids agreed to go! I think they like us!…. at the moment) and already I can smell the salty sea air and taste the Black Dog fish & chips.    I check the real estate market on island occasionally, waiting for just the right little cottage to come up for sale at the right price. So far it hasn’t happened and maybe it never will, but the search itself brings me joy, imagining the possibilities regardless of  whether they ever unfold.

  Below are pictures from previous trips…
Waiting for the ferry…
My two with  a cousin at Gay Head Beach…

Bike riding in Edgartown…

 Joseph Sylvia State Beach, great  for those with young children who
want a quiet surf….

Edgartown Harbor

Gay head light… Aquinnah

Just below the cliffs is a nude beach if you’re so inclined….

Edgartown homes…


South Beach


Campground Cottages in Oak Bluffs…
If I won the lottery!…. well, you, too can own one of these
charming seasonal cottages for about $500,000.
Not bad considering the location!…

Vineyard Haven Docks at the Black Dog Tavern…

Just a magical place…
When I look back over the pictures,
I see so many smiling faces…
Looking forward to the return “home”.

He said She said

This morning’s conversations…..

Manchild…silent through the car ride to the bus stop….

then…

Him:  I need 40 bucks to buy a ticket to the Semi Formal for Saturday night…

Me:   But you said you weren’t going!   Does your suit still fit?… what color dress is your date wearing?… we’ll need a boutonniere and corsage???…..  WHO is your DATE?……  

All this.. mind you, flashed through my mind in about twelve seconds.. only the first sentence actually got out of my mouth…   before he said…..

  “Don’t ask me any questions, I don’t want to talk about it ….”

and sprinted out of the car,  dashing to the bus.  Use of the word “sprint” is not an exaggeration here.

Ok  then.

I drive home and make a mental list of the few things that will have to be taken care of now that he’s attending the semi formal on THIS Saturday night…   (Girls would be planning for this dance three months in advance.  Guys?  two hours before they might give it some serious thought. But probably not. )

….and now back at the ranch…. Graduate Girl comes downstairs in her work attire.  There’s a pensive look… then a muttered sentence…

She:    “Is this jewelry too much, you think?”…..

Now that’s not just a muttered sentence.. that’s a LOADED QUESTION.   Because, you know…. even though they ask the question, it doesn’t necessarily mean they really want  your answer if  it diverts in any way from what they’re already  thinking.

SO… I tentatively stick a toe in the waters of that deeeeeep deeeeeep pool.

Me:  “Well.. your outfit looks great!  I really like the jewelry too.”

and here’s where it gets sticky.  Because  I really shoulda just left it right there. Shut up. Zipped the lip. MINDED MY OWN BEESWAX.

Because then I said…

…”but maybe the big bangly bracelet is a bit too much for the Bank. “

Can you hear the whistle of the  big 2 ton ACME weight falling down the canyon wall, 
 headed for Wyle E. Coyote?

 SHE says… in a huff with a heavy eye roll and a good stomp back up the stairs…
 “Of course you would say that… “

 To her credit… she came back down about 10 minutes later and told me she caught the “tone” in her voice when I gave my opinion, and although she realized she ASKED me for an opinion, from now on she’s just gonna trust her own judgement, thank you very much.

 I think that’s a great idea, don’t you?

Ooooookay then!

16

Today my baby boy  is 16 years old.

Buddy, you make your folks proud.
You are kind, considerate, mindful of others.
In fourth and fifth grade you won an award for
befriending and mentoring a student who was having a hard time fitting in.
You continue to do these little acts of kindness as you grow into
this fine young man you are becoming. 
Your imagination knows no bounds and you’ve even
taught us a thing or two.
And we thought we knew everything!
We love you.
This doesn’t mean you’re exempt from picking up your wet towels,
handing in all your homework assignments,
answering my texts 
and putting your dirty clothes in the hamper.
just sayin

Goodbye, Picnik

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or those of us who have been hyperventilating

over the loss of our beloved PICNIK….
(ok, maybe that’s just me)
…I’ve got some happy news.
Brenda of A Cozy Little House
clued me in to Picmonkey.
Right now it’s free and you don’t even have to register.
SO easy to use. Really!
 If you’re into photo editing and dislike the technicalities of Photoshop…
this is a great alternative.



Girlz & Boyz

For those of you who have ever traveled in horsey circles
or have been horse crazy yourself…
You may have heard this before..
How to keep girls from getting in to trouble with boys?
… let them ride horses!
Well I’m here to tell you today..
that’s just crap. 
However the following saying is absolutely true…
and I am so glad my daughter and my sister’s daughter
have the love for and the ability to really know a horse.
“There’s nothing so good for the inside of a woman
as the outside of a horse”. 
It’s been said several different ways and credit has been given to
several different famous figures over the years…
but whatever the origin, it’s just the plain truth. 

Every now and then…

 …..I talk him into taking a half hour away from work…
(in the middle of the DAY??? … )
turning off the cell phone..
(…not turning it off!  but not answering either. )
good enough…
and taking some time to just breathe it all in.
What are we here for…
why are we working so hard….
if we can’t give ourselves permission for that.
68 degrees today, sunny all day long…

I’ll take it 🙂


He thinks it’s funny

  The manchild was giggling when I came in from the barn last night all soggy from the rain. He and grown daughter were talking about WHEN THEY MOVE OUT.  They saw me coming down the hill from the barn and I guess I looked forlorn.    I wasn’t, just so ya know. It was raining and muddy and I dumped a water bucket down my leg by mistake.   Do you know how wet jeans and a boot full of water feel when it’s 38 degrees out at dusk and your teeth are already chattering from the raw damp misery that swirls around you and the damn chickens won’t get in their coop without issues? 

  So anyway.. they weren’t laughing about that.   No.. they were wondering what good ole MOM is going to do once they do move out.  My dear son said to me… “Mom.. you oughta start thinking about getting a hobby or open a store again or something… you know… to fill the time you use right now to do all that stuff for us.   I’m probably going to have to come home from college now and then just to give you something to do.”     I love him, I do.

*sigh*

  But you know… it’s not like there isn’t a grain of truth in that little speech there… I have plenty of hobbies and chores and little jobs here and there, thank you very much… but perhaps it’s time to start thinking about what I might be able to do next.  NEXT.     Although I kinda like the job I have now.  I haven’t asked to give it up. It’s just inevitable that it’s going to change some.

  It’s been raining/snowing/sleeting here at This Old House for two days now…some would say downright dreary.  I happen to be enjoying it because we are all here under the same roof, waiting out the rain together, meandering through uneventful,  unhurried evenings.   I’ll soak up every drop of that.

He’d make a really cool cowboy, don’t ya think?

He also told me not to DARE put this pic on the blog.
uh-huh.

I’ll be cleaning tack tonight… it was GREEN when I pulled it out of the tack closet
to ride the other day. That’s how damp this winter has been.
As for the birthday boy  – I failed at summoning the  Italian fiat commercial model
for my husband’s leap year birthday….but I’m not totally heartless.
 He got his Sports Illustrated Swimsuit issue among other gifts.

 

Days spent together…
you never know how many you’ve got..
so enjoy every one. 
Rain related… One of my favorite sayings….
Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass….
it’s about learning how to get out there and dance in the rain.

Isn’t that just the truth.