Tag: Family
What do YOU find under your couch cushions?
Barn Building
The Tides
if you ..just..let..it..go.
It seemed like a good idea at the time
Last night Junior decided to have a bonfire in the firepit and invited a few friends over. Then it was a sleepover. So at 9:30 the husband went to Stop & Shop and got burgers, hotdogs, marshmallows for the smores deal, and there was a late night grilling session. Then someone thought it would be really cool to set up the tent and sleep outside.
I took these photos from my spy area, the porch behind a shrowd of darkness because moms aren’t supposed to be anywhere near the camp vicinity, you know.
A Semi Formal Education
This Mothers Day weekend I learned three things – 1. -Just how grown up my son is becoming, 2. how only young people can truly walk in these shoes and pull it off gracefully – (this ability is no longer in my grasp) – and 3. how FORMAL Freshman semi-formals have become. This ain’t your mother’s semi-formal, I can tell you that.
How to be a really awesome totally cool Mom…
You didn’t really think I’d have the answer, now, did ya?
I can tell you what NOT to do…..
Me: … (walking over to picnic table full of soccer boys with two pizzas and two liters of soda)
Him: Thanks mom!…. (and all start devouring said pizza & soda)
Me: Can I have a sip of your coke please?…
Him: Um No.
Me: Are you kidding? Just a sip!
Him: NO mom. I don’t want your germs!….get your own.
Me: There are no more cups, can I just have a sip??…..
( I’m thinking, I just drove 200 miles to and from a soccer game on a freezing cold afternoon, catered to their care and comfort and stopped at pizza place so they could refuel. The least I can expect is a sip of soda, right? Too much to ask???)
Him: Uh-uh.
Me: You do know that THIS body made the body YOU LIVE IN, right? YOU CAME FROM ME. SO… my germs are your germs, kid. Give me a freak’n sip.
Yeah… so… don’t ever remind them of that if you want to be considered a really awesome totally cool Mom. Especially when they are sitting at the table eating pizza with six other 11 year olds.
Firsts
Ric
My cousin Ric was a handsome guy – rock star looks with out the snarly. Even better -he was a kind hearted old soul with an ear for music – a drummer and sometimes singer who’s potential was never realized. Unfortunately, his constant companion throughout his adult life was alcoholism. He tried many times to kick it to the curb, but it kicked right back and the last time…the curb took his life. How ironic.
I didn’t see him often, as he always lived states away, but when I did, I adored him… with his rock star good looks and his musical ability and that big heart and smile that brought you right into his circle when you were near. He had the same twinkle in his eye as his father, brothers and sister… and I think a little of the depression that plagued his beautiful mothers soul.
I remember the last conversation we had in my mothers kitchen… he was in a bad place, struggling so hard to come back to “normal”. He had two beautiful kids and a granddaughter who he loved very much. He wanted so much to stay healthy and sober so he could spend more time with them. I was giving him all the advice a person who’s never been in his shoes would typically say, and I feel stupid now thinking I had any answers for him. I didn’t have a clue as to what he was really up against.
My cousin, who is a gifted writer and was once a ballerina – wrote a moving tribute yesterday on her blog about her brother. This had to be a very painful process for her. They were a close family all their lives despite hardships – and there have been many. Until reading this post, I didn’t quite know what Rics last days on this earth looked like and it breaks my heart in two. He deserved better.
http://augustinesconfessions.blogspot.com/
l to r – My sister, Ric’s brother and wife, my Nana in purple – and behind her my little guy on the shoulder of my big guy along with baby niece “S”, Ric’s sister in pale blue with husband behind her and Ric on the right.
So much has changed since I took this picture.
Live your moments
In the checkout line she looked at my cake mix and two candle numbers and said “Do you have a 51 or a 15?” ..and I quickly replied… “15!!! – no 51’s yet!” We laughed. It’s not that many years away… the 51. I need to stop mentally reading that as “Omg… I’m this number already.” It needs to read more like… Thank you thank you for every moment of the years I’m given. I’m reminded through some of my blog friends out there, (you know who you are) just how precious life is. These blog friends have taught me a thing or two about grace under pressure. Gratitude for life. I want you to know, I’m working on it…every moment… and I thank you for the message.