Tag: Garden
Summer neighborhood
At the rock jetty Frasier did a little wade-in….. which he quickly surmised was foolish given the frigid water and new haircut status.
Seaside Gardening
We planted these shrubs in the fall to
Porch Sitting and Community gathering and OH, what a SUCKY MOVIE, but a few good books
Clowns to the left of me…
.. jokers to the right.. here I am.. stuck in the middle with you.
(you’re humming that tune, aren’t ya)
Kinda how I feel right now … what with the Hilary/Trump decision looming. And the kids-leaving-the-nest situation glooming.
Thank you all for your comments and commiseration and kind words and wisdom through experience. We moved my daughter and her boyfriend into their new condo and they are settling in to figure out whether they’re good together for the long haul. I happen to think that’s a very wise choice. M and I did nothing of the sort because it would have been frowned upon by his family and he did not want to rock the boat. So we jumped in with both feet, rocked our own boats dramatically and had a baby a year later. When you do that sort of thing, you had better hope it was a wise choice, because you could also find yourself looking at the other, saying “WHO the HELL are YOU?”. And you know.. by then it’s kinda difficult to extract yourself. SO… I cheer them on and wish them well and miss the clatter of their feet up and down the hallway stairs and the morning chatter and even the bickering when they ask your opinion but don’t really want it. (That’s one of my favorites).
K’s new kitchen..
Meanwhile, back at the ranch.. the manchild and his GF went on their first major shopping excursion last night, because they will need just about everything. I can’t really throw them a “living in sin” party, either… SO…. They decided they really want a new comfy sectional sofa, not the old couch we have in storage.. so they financed it. It’s his first major purchase besides his vehicle, but a good way to build credit. Now, this is the kid who would have to visit three sneaker stores before deciding on a pair… even when he was SEVEN YEARS OLD! I knew what they were in for. … So.. last night while they were out shopping, the text went like this…
Me: How are you making out?……
Him: Struggling.
Sneaker problems.
Long story short, a couch was purchased in espresso, not the off white they almost got.. because I think I brought home the point that eventually someone with new blue jeans was going to sit on that white couch and leave blue dye smudges all over it, and heaven forbid blue jean baby has a glass of red wine in hand and does an oops…. or perhaps the dog will get into the Valentines chocolate box sitting on the sofa table and smear it all over said white couch while you’re out to dinner with your significant other who PAID for it… the couch and the chocolates… (I wish I could tell you I’m not speaking from experience.)
I’m happy for them, and I’m getting used to the idea, and doing what I usually do when I need a distraction. Spend. New blue hydrangea bowl on the dining room table, because *s*t*r*e*s*s*
In the midst of the moving, we’re having some beautiful days… here are a few shots from the garden…
The pansy pot was found out in the woods, it’s a perfect pansy pot, don’t ya think? …. Just to give you an accurate picture of ME right now… picture fingers in my ears… singing La la la la la la la.. and just looking around not really focusing on any one thing… because THIS….
Rain and Relationships with a Garden Tour for good measure
Come take a walk with me as I mull over family issues and do morning chores here at the farm… I’ll show you how my garden grows, or doesn’t… too.
First stop is the hen house and rabbit hutch.
Harley (black bunny) had an episode of colic recently and because he looked like he was about to die in ten minutes, off to the vet we went. Did you know that too much of a commercial rabbit pellet diet is not good for them? I sure didn’t. Collard greens, celery, carrots sparingly, parsley, berries, and lots of Timothy Hay are what they should be eating. The pellets you see in pet stores are not meant to be their main diet. I’ve always given my bunnies lots of greens and such, but they always had a big bowl of the pellets as well. Hence, the colic. Harley is better now, and loves his collard greens.
Next stop is the barn, where horses have already been banging buckets because they’ve heard me down at the coop.
They don’t like being in, would prefer to be standing out in the rain, truth be told.. but when it’s still this chilly I keep them in until the rain clears. Admittedly, it’s more for me than them. Kinda like their blankets in winter.
The ancient pear tree that is half-hollow is full of blossoms again this year. I loath the day it keels over, but for now it still appears very happy up there on the hill. Thank you powers that be.
After barn chores now that spring has arrived, I head over to the garden to do whatever needs tending. The Arugula is coming up, but not much else. I’m concerned all the rain and cold air temps have thwarted the seed efforts. Time will tell.
Same thing happening in our little greenhouse… slow growing.
I planted six purple sweet potato plants… we’ll see how that goes, first attempt at potatoes. Any advice?
The ancient stand of lilacs are thriving.. Mike limed them last year and it helped.
So, the rain in this post is obvious, but not the reference to relationships.
Rain IN relationships is inevitable, we’ve all figured that out by now, haven’t we. I have always been a worrier and as a mother that is tenfold in my being. I don’t like it, as the old saying goes… worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but doesn’t get you anywhere. But it’s not something you can just set down like a heavy purse.. if you’re a worrier. No, it’s more like an extra skin that you can’t shed.
Being a mom, and particularly that mom... when my kids are hurting, I hurt. I always believed the teen years would be the most difficult, and they did have their challenges. I niavely assumed as they got older the worry would subside, the protective instincts. But ooh, nooo… the circumstances just change, not the concern. As they grow into adults they have their own relationships and they need to learn as they grow, just like we did, how to make them work, what doesn’t work… who is worth the effort, who isn’t. It’s painful to watch them struggle when things aren’t going well, but as my wise mother said, no one gets through life without struggle and pain and loss. It’s part of living. The hard part is leaving them be, letting them sort it all out without interferring, because you want to FIX IT for them. Raising children to be good, strong adults means letting them do for themselves, not just being there to FIX. As it should be… but Lord, it ain’t easy.
The good, the bad and the hilarious
We’ll start with the bad and work our way up. A few nights ago, my daughter’s horse Max had a belly ache. Meds didn’t help. More meds didn’t help… and it was determined he was very sick and needed immediate transport to the Equine hospital (1.5 hours away) if he were going to survive whatever was causing the colic. At 11:30 p.m. Our vet had to sedate him because he was so distraught by the pain by the time his chariot arrived to take him to the hospital. I have never seen a horse in so much pain that came on so quickly, it was a horrible, helpless feeling.
He had surgery, where they found a large fatty tumor (melon size) wrapped around his colon. It had shifted, and pushed his colon over. That’s why all the horrible sudden pain. *sigh.
Survival is iffy with these things… and I am happy to report, three days later, Max is doing very well considering what he’s been through. Thank GOD for equine insurance. I won’t tell you what this cost… but most people who don’t have equine insurance put the horse down because they can’t afford it.
I’ve been out in the garden today trying to wash off the stress with fresh air and sunshine… it’s a beautiful thing…and if you don’t already know it, gardens are restorative, they are healing. If you haven’t started one of your own yet, when the season is right in your neck of the woods… for heavens sake, get out there and plant, nurture, tend. It will do the same for you, I promise.
Spring Rain and too-smart horses
After a particularly cold and snowy and dragged out winter, we’ve had a weird spring. Right now, the grass is parched. This morning, however, there is a light misty rain and I am so grateful. My gardens need the reprieve.
This morning when I went out to feed the animals, I discovered Opie had let himself and Max out overnight. I close my horses in at night so I know they aren’t getting into trouble out in the fields in the dark. It’s not totally necessary, but it gives me peace of mind. Any little bit of that I can get, I take. In the warmer months I leave the top door of their stalls open so they have good ventilation. Opie.. has discovered how to undo the latches with his mouth. Last night he opened his own door, then sprung Max out of his stall as well, and the two had a grand old time grazing all night in the light rain. This is how I was greeted this morning when I came out to feed –
On mornings like this, when it’s peaceful out in the fields and the animals are happy to see you – (oh it’s the FOOD, I know) – you don’t mind the work so much, you remember why you did all this in the first place. It’s a beautiful thing.
Just Do it
I’m a worrier. Always have been.. as it always shall be. Unless they come up with some miracle cure for worry, and then I’ll be first in line holding my hand extended out for that magic pill because oooh, wouldn’t it be nice not to worry. My 93 year old neighbor across the street told me the secret to longevity is to try not worry too much.. what will be.. will be. One foot in front of the other, take it as it comes, and don’t imagine what isn’t even there.
Sounds like a great plan!! Easier said than done, my friends.. easier said than done.
Some months back I went for my yearly mammogram and thankfully “all appears normal”. Then I got a notice in the mail from the radiology group that my boobs are “moderately dense”… and we’re not talking IQ here. Because of this fact, they now recommend a follow up ultrasound because it can detect things a mammo can’t. The notice said that it wasn’t an urgent matter, talk it over with my Dr. next time I had an appointment. So I did discuss it at my yearly ob-gyn exam. My Dr. just happened to be recovering from breast cancer which was detected by ultrasound, NOT the mammogram, which appeared normal. The same is true of my own mother, who is a breast cancer survivor of three years now. Given the family history, I was advised to get the ultrasound along with the mammogram.
*sigh*
Another test to agonize over and procrastinate on and kick about in my ever worrying mind. I finally got around to it, remembering the words of a dear blog friend, Vicky, who is battling Stage Four breast cancer with a dignity and grace, courage and strength that amazes me every step of her journey. She said.. I don’t think there are any regrets for tests taken… just regrets for tests -not- taken that could have prevented something worse.
With that in mind and my own mother’s experience, I finally made the appointment and had the ultrasound exam. I’m very relieved to report that all is well. The technician was a lovely woman who explained the importance of getting both screenings done because neither detects all cancers, but both together are an excellent tool for early detection.
So.. if you’re told you have dense breast tissue, get the ultrasound as well. So far, I believe statistics are that it’s only mandatory for the labs to notify you in 9 states. This year..Connecticut is among them. Ask for yourself if you’re not notified. Do I have dense breasts? Can I also get an ultrasound? ….
Ok, on to something more pleasant…
Here are some images from my late summer/early fall garden … the leaves are beginning to change.. sugar maples among my favorite and the first to turn….
Sunny Disposition
If I ask you what comes to your mind first when you think of a cheerful flower, I bet many of you will say the Sunflower. My mom and a group she is affiliated with would agree.. and this year they gave out sunflower seeds to anyone in town who would like to grow them. The idea was to spread sunshiney cheer throughout the town and come together at the end of the season to award prizes in several catagories ranging from largest flower to best arrangement, single flower, photography, etc. The celebraton took place on Saturday and right now there are sunflowers growing at the circle, the gas station, the elementary school, Parmelee Farm, This Old House.. the retirement community up the road.. and many resident gardens as well.
It’s a beautiful thing..this spreading of sunshine, don’t you think? I’m hoping next year participation doubles. These lovely folks shared a recipe the first selectwoman created just for this occasion. It is delicious and unique!